Showing posts with label Tyler. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tyler. Show all posts

Thursday, January 19, 2012

All in the Family

Although the focus of the blog is on my daughter Meredith, I wanted to tell you about my son Tyler as well.  Although (so far) Tyler does not seem to possess the same visual processing style as Meredith and my husband with the filing cabinets and assistants, he certainly shows signs of having pretty exceptional visual skills.

When Tyler was six, we walked into the living room to see him quietly drawing away on a piece of paper.  He had been watching Star Wars, but paused it on a frame of Yoda.  When I looked at what Tyler was drawing, I was shocked.  This is what he drew:



Now, I realize I'm Tyler's Mama and as such, I'm hugely biased.  But even trying to keep my objective hat on, I think this drawing is pretty remarkable for a six-year old.  I'm not sure too many adults could draw that off the tv with such symetry.

Here is another example of a Pokemon character the Tyler copied from a book at the same age:


And just today, Tyler told me that he does in fact have some colors for letters and days of the week, indicating that he is also a synesthete (i.e., someone who experiences synesthesia) like Meredith (see this earlier post on Meredith's synesthesia).  Just for the record, Tyler said his days of the week are colored as follows: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday.  He described his letter "a" as illustrated below.  Tyler spent time with me on the computer to get the turquoise background, the font for the letter "a", and shadow on the letter just right.  I find it interesting that it is three-dimensional.  As with most synesthetes, the colors and details are very, very specific.  That's usually how I know that someone is actually "seeing" the color and not just making it up. 


I'm going to keep this as a record and see if it remains stable over time.  If you are a synesthete, you too can record your synesthetic experience for a large study called the Synesthesia Battery that Dr. David Eagleman is conducting at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston. 

I once corresponded with a doctural student in England who studied at what age synesthesia emerges in children.  She found that it seems to emerge in the early elementary years.  This could be why Tyler never said he had colored letters before, but now he does--he's now in Second Grade.

This discussion about Tyler illustrates two points that I want to share with you:

     (1) Visual thinking is genetic, and
     (2) Sibling IQs are closer than you think.

Dr. Cheri Florance says that brainprints -- or basically the way you think -- is genetic to some degree.  It is very commonplace that if there is one predominantly visual thinker in a family, there will be many more. Take my family, for example. My father was an electrical engineer and designed nuclear plants. My mother was an English teacher, but also is a talented watercolor painter. My oldest brother is a brilliant engineer and mathemetician as well, and my second oldest brother is a talented architect (hello visual-spatial talent!). I have had various positions and interests, but have been drawn to the visual arts as well with photography (www.angelaeatonphotography.com). My youngest sister has found her niche in nature study and also has various visual arts as hobbies (www.montanapulpworks.com).  Those weren't shameless plugs--just wanted to give you something to look at!

Doctors, engineers, mechanics, artists, hair stylists, graphic designers, computer programers, first responders--these are all examples of highly visual career paths.  It is interesting to look at people's hobbies as well.  If you have a highly visual person in your family, look at a little closer at the family picture to see if you see this trait more often than not.

To my second point, Dr. Linda Silverman (the person who coined the original term "visual-spatial") explains that siblings generally are within 5 - 10 points of each other's IQ scores (go here for more information).  I mention this because I think it is very common for parents to say that one of their children is gifted and the other is not.  Dr. Silverman discusses how often the second child will have very similar traits, but because they compete with the first-born child to some degree, their gifted traits may manifest themselves differently.  It is worth giving your "non-gifted"children a second look!



A note on "gifted."  Who really knows what gifted means.  There are many different definitions by many different institutions.  I don't like to toss that word around and proclaim to the world that I have "gifted kids."  What I have found, however, is a pretty high correlation with what I'm reading on the "overexcitabilities" and high-intensity nature of gifted kids and my own kids.  I have found the literature on the emotional needs of the gifted to be extremely helpful in dealing with my kids.  It is really in this context that I talk about gifted.

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Who are Meredith and Merebith Anyway?

After much encouragement from friends, I'm starting this blog to journal the unique adventures of my daughter Meredith.  More than anything, I don't want to lose the stories that she shares with me because as you'll find out, they are very intricate and dynamic diaries of her inner world.  But first let me introduce myself. 

My name is Angela, but I go by Angé.  (It is pronouced Angie, but I was named after a great aunt who owned a fashionable dress shop in small town, Wisconsin.  My theory was that she was adding a little flair to her name with the accent.  It's usually too much trouble to find the "é," so I typically just write, "Ange."  More information than you needed?  I just hate that people think I'm calling myself "Ang" when I write "Ange.")  I am a stay-at-home Mom married to Tom--another interesting character!  I have two children--Meredith who is now 11 years old and Tyler who is 7.  We live in Texas, but have roots up North.  My husband and I met each other at the Unversity of Pittsburgh when we lived next door in apartments behind what used to be the old Forbes Field for the Pittsburgh Pirates.

Fast forward through years of graduate school, long distance dating, first jobs, marriage, and raising two children.  Things in this predictable life pattern changed dramatically when my daughter was 10 years old and in fourth grade.  I discovered that she had a extremely vivid visual way of thinking and learning.  And I mean extremely and vivid.  I'll unwrap all the details on how I discovered this.  Those discoveries have led to changes in our family relationships, changes in schools, discovering parts of my husband that I never knew, and discovering a whole new perspective on learning "disorders" and/or divergent thinking.  I have come a long way and now I can truly say I admire and appreciate the gifts that the extreme visual minds possess--gifts that are so often misunderstood and unrecognized.  I hope to share with you what I have learned and experienced and I hope you'll be entertained by my (or Meredith's) stories. 

For those of you who may find similar patterns in your children, I look forward to helping you in any way that I can, for I have learned a lot.  And what I've learned is not found in your typical parenting books.  Fortunately, I see more and more information about parenting this type of child, but you wouldn't really know to look for these sources unless you knew what you were really dealing with in the first place.  And even if you did access these resources, these are complex kiddos and I can't imagine anyone mastering how to parent them without lots and lots of practice.  But by that time, they'll be up and out!  We can still try though...


Oh, I almost forgot. I never told you about MerebithMerebith is the little girl that helps my daughter Meredith with all the inner workings in her mind.  You'll come to learn all about her soon.  I have decided for now to type "Merebith" in italics to help you decipher between her and Meredith.